Name: The Only Dating Advice you Will Ever Need to Hear ✨Feminine Dating Secrets✨
Uploaded: 2024-07-25T09:10:37.000Z
Duration: 23 min 49 s
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I hope you're all having a lovely, lovely day.

I hope it gets even better from watching this video.

Today we're chatting all about my sort of dating rules slash guidelines.

I want you to come out of this video being like, okay, I know my worth.

We're going to talk about how you're going to stop being the one who's picked and you're going to start choosing.

We're going to talk about how to stop being convenient and just be who you are and know what you want.

We're going to chat about how to deal with like behaviors you don't like, how to act, what to say, that sort of a thing.

I want to put out a, and we'll get through those really quickly.

Number one, I am coming from a place of dating men for the most part.

I believe in masculine, feminine energy, and I think every relationship has that polarity or at least most, no matter if it's like a straight relationship or not.

I think there are so many misconceptions when it comes to what feminine energy actually is.

It is not being weak, first of all, and it is not being a 1950s housewife.

I don't know where we got that from, but that is ridiculous.

But if you want a whole other video about feminine energy and how to kind of step into it and what it is, let me know.

Disclaimer number two, anytime anyone shares any sort of dating advice of how to act or what to say or how to be when it comes to dating, there's always comments like, Oh, I just want to be myself.

And sure, who am I to tell you what to do and what not to do with your life?

But I assume that most of us that are watching this kind of content are coming from a place of not being very healthy when it comes to relationships and dating.

Maybe we've experienced whatever in our childhoods and we are, let's say anxiously attached or we're insecure.

I would like to think that that is not who I am or at least it's not who I want to be.

And I think these tips are how to better yourself so that you can get what you want.

Because I assume the behavior you've been in hasn't gotten you what you want.

And that is something I personally experienced.

I was in a lot of toxic situations, relationships, you name it, I've experienced it.

I then took a year off dating and I was single on purpose.

And I really took that year to learn about these patterns and start to heal them.

And I'm now in a healthy, happy, long-term committed relationship that I've always wanted.

And so this is kind of coming from that place of someone who had been through it and is now on the other side.

And this is something that I would do if I had to start from scratch.

I'm Nika, by the way, I like to make content like this, just chatting about things that are important in the self-development space.

And I like to make my advice and my videos super actionable so that when you're done watching it, you're like, okay, I can implement this.

I can do this exercise and I can start today because that's just something that works for me.

And if it's up your alley, I would love for you to stick around and subscribe and check out my other social media for more content like this.

That was a little long, but let's jump right into it.

And I think the most crucial one is we're going to uncover your worth because what is this business of you chasing people or trying to convince people to be with you or to want you or to love you that ends today.

And I'm hoping that these things that I'm about to say that helped me flip that switch are going to help you as well, because then you don't have to keep convincing yourself like, Oh, I shouldn't be doing this.

It's not going to get me what I want, but I just cannot stop.

We're going to end this so that naturally you're not even interested in people like that anymore.

So usually people, especially men are very honest.

It might not be through what they're saying, but it's definitely through what they're doing.

So they might say like, I don't want a relationship right now or I'm not looking for anything serious, but most likely they're just not putting in as much effort.

So they're not making the time to see you.

They don't really care to check in with you.

You kind of need to chase them to make anything happen.

That means, and I hate to say it, I know it sucks to hear, but it means that they're not interested in that way.

They don't want a relationship with you because when anyone wants to be with you, especially a man, they will make it very obvious.

This will not be something hard to decode or something.

You need to convince yourself and find loopholes of, Oh, but he did text me last Friday to say that he misses me.

It's very, very obvious because why wouldn't he make it obvious if that is what he wants?

But if we are in this pattern of chasing people that we know deep down don't want us, it comes from somewhere.

It might be that your dad didn't have time for you.

So you kept just kind of scraping for some love and attention.

Maybe you were bullied early on in childhood.

Maybe you just didn't feel loved and like you belong in your family, whatever it might be.

There are a hundred different types of stories, but they all lead to the same place, which is you not believing that who you are is good enough and worthy enough to be loved just for who you are.

And now you're out here convincing these random chads or brads or whoever that no, I am, I am actually good enough.

And by you convincing them that you are, and if you actually get to the point where you convince them, which you usually never do, but if you magically make that happen, then you're like, I am lovable because Chad here loves me.

And that is what you're doing subconsciously.

Like you're trying to convince yourself of something that you should do within yourself that has no business being something that you're trying to achieve outside of yourself by Chad loving you, you know?

So if that already doesn't flip a switch of you just knowing this is what I'm doing, this is my pattern.

I'm trying to convince people to love me because I don't believe deep down that I'm lovable.

Get a picture of yourself when you were a little kid, whichever one like speaks to you and you just feel like, Oh, I love this little kid.

So now that you have this picture, imagine that this child is like with you all the time.

And obviously you want the best for this child.

It's an innocent little kid that has done absolutely nothing to deserve whatever has happened to him.