Name: Give me 8 minutes, and I'll improve your communication skills by 88%...
Uploaded: 2024-09-03T12:13:42.000Z
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You are already ahead of 90% of the people your age if you can just communicate competently.

It is statistically proven that the people who are better communicators, they get better job opportunities and make more money and they attract higher quality of the opposite sex.

And if you look at the people under the age of 25 nowadays, you will see that there is a supply and demand issue.

There's a demand for good communicators, but there's not a lot of supply.

And when there's not a lot of supply, you don't necessarily need to be the best.

So you'd be pretty dumb to click off this video because this video might just save the rest of your entire life.

Being a good communicator is the equivalent of being a 6'3 handsome man nowadays in our generation.

When I was 12 years old, I was in year six at the time,

I was the school captain of my primary school and I think maybe 30 or 40 kids because I was probably the best speaker there.

I always try to encourage other people by telling them to never give up and to always try their best.

I started dating the other school captain who was a good speaker as well.

Around five months into our lovey-dovey stage, we decided to go on like a Halloween trick or treating.

And one of my friends came along with us two, there was three of us.

And I could tell that she was extremely attracted to my friend that she hadn't seen before.

And when we decided to go home, my girlfriend went to her place and my friend came back to my place.

And my friend started to explain to me how he could tell that she was eyeing him.

So that was when I developed a lot of anxiety, a lot of jealousy.

And this is where my insecurity started to come in.

I started to look myself in the mirror every single day and think I was ugly, even though I wasn't.

And because I had built those insecurities, my communication skills suffered.

Because, probably wondering why I have this picture up here.

This pipe represents your inability to speak, okay?

This, the tap, the quality of water represents the quality of your communication.

I had, because of my anxiety, developed gunk in this tap.

I was a very, very good communicator, but the blockage was holding me back from being a good communicator.

You could be the best speaker out there, but if you have a lot of anxiety, a lot of embarrassment, a lot of, like a fear of judgment, you're not going to be able to express yourself clearly because it feels like there's a block in your throat.

Feels like there's just something blocking you, okay?

And the way you get rid of this is by just simply asking yourself where it comes from.

Is it something to do with the start, where it's coming from, right?

It's all about getting to the root cause on why it's there in the first place.

Why am I so scared of talking to that girl?

Number one exercise you will do in order to improve your communication, okay?

Because this, the gunk, is holding you back.

I'll leave a video at the end of this video on how I overcame my anxiety, okay?

Now, once this is limited, you're never going to be perfect, okay?

I fear judgment quite a bit, but I just have less gunk than other people do, meaning I'm a better communicator compared to other people, meaning I get better opportunities.

I'm going to share with you four crucial things that aren't necessarily hard.

They're very, very easy that you can do today to improve this water quality.

Number one, you must realize the intention creates your tension.

The intention behind why you speak, okay?

This is where my insecurities had developed quite a bit.

I went up to talk to a pretty attractive girl on the bench at school.

It was like my third or fourth day of school.

And I went in with the intention of talking to this girl to get validated by her.

I didn't really want to connect with her.

So there was an awkward silence five seconds in, and the conversation just ended off there.

If I had went in with the intention just to connect with this woman, not to attract her, just to connect with her, find out more about her.

Trust me, it would have gone so much better.

Your intention creates the type of tension.

If you talk to a girl, you just do it to connect with her, not to necessarily attract her.

Trust me, that blockage is going to be reduced and your water is going to be higher quality.

This is easy, but not all of you would like it.

And the second one is to actually read more books.

Now, the reason I say to read more books, two main reasons.

Number one, it increases your vocabulary.

Half of the words you probably hear me say that are kind of advanced, even though I don't really say many advanced words because I'm speaking to a younger audience, is from the books I've read.

Each time I read, which is usually around 30 to 60 minutes per day,

I will highlight one to two words that aren't too robotic, but I've heard them before and I want to start using more in public.

If you just have a really, really simple vocabulary, it's very hard to be a really good communicator.

There's like a cap to the quality of water you can be.

Now, second thing, when you're reading, you, most of the time, are mentally, trying to think of the word.

Rehearsing what you're reading in your mind.

I originally heard it from Andrew Huberman on reading and how it improves communication.

Specifically books that help your future self because you're gaining knowledge and becoming a better communicator.

Third thing, it kind of goes to eliminating the guck out of your pipe and that is improving your looks and improving just your overall appearance.

Now, I'm not one of those black pill motherfuckers, looks max type of dudes, yeah?

I'm only saying this because when you feel confident, you express how you feel.

Get some nice clothes that actually fit you.

I don't wear nothing special, but I wear clothes that fit me.

Get yourself a haircut, start getting better sleep, look after your skin, start eating a clean diet.

These really simple things that will improve your looks and improve how you feel so you naturally feel more confident.

Now, the fourth thing that has improved my communication skills,

I'd say probably the most because I do it so much, is speaking on camera.

I will play a snippet of me three years ago with my first ever YouTube video.

Hello everyone, welcome back to another video.

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