Name: How To Actually Become Disciplined WITHOUT willpower… | The Leading Behaviour Expert Chase Hughes
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How do I fix my discipline if I'm an ill-disciplined person?

Understanding what discipline is, is the most critical element.

And I define this differently than most people.

So I define discipline as your ability to prioritize the needs of your future self ahead of your own present self.

The scenario one is I go home tonight, right?

Because I go to sleep, I get to bed early.

And there's this other thing I'm thinking about doing after this, which is going to the gym.

And I'm like, I was just, as you're saying that, I was thinking both help future me.

So the moment that we start understanding that, if I could just make decisions that are prioritizing future me, then we go back to where am I getting my dopamine from?

And I want past tense me to be a source of dopamine for present tense me.

Because most of us look back with regret.

I shouldn't have mouthed off at the family reunion.

If I can start looking backwards with gratitude, that's the fastest way to make discipline dopamine generating.

So like when I go to bed at night, I will pop open the little Keurig coffee thing and stick the thing in there, put a cup under there.

So when I wake up in the morning, I just go, bam, and everything's ready.

I'll get my clothes out, everything kind of lined up, ready to put on for the next day.

So I'm lowering the threshold of how much attention I'm spending.

So I'm going to set my life up in every single way that I possibly can as if I were a butler for future me.

So when I wake up in the morning, all this stuff set out, my laundry's laid out, my checklist for what I need to do for the day, all the stuff I've got to get on a plane is all laid out by the back door.

Everything that I could possibly do to make my future self go, oh, man, that's awesome and look backwards with gratitude, I'm going to do it.

I'll take a $100 bill or maybe a few $100 bills every spring or summer and I'll stick them in a jacket pocket that I'm not going to use until the winter and I'll forget about it.

In the winter, I'm looking and now I become a source of dopamine.

Past tense me is becoming a source of dopamine for present tense me that forces me to look in the future.

Along with like printing that old me photo and putting it all over the house.

But everything that I can possibly do to make myself look backwards with gratitude is what I'm going to start doing.

It's like just going overboard is going to be crazy.

And even writing a little post-it note to yourself and sticking it in a jacket or maybe a dress shoe that you're not going to wear for a few months, it means so much to find that and it's from you.

So you're looking backwards with like, wow, that's amazing.

So you're now getting in love and sending gratitude backwards which automatically means that what's going forwards is concern and care.

The moment I'm always looking back with gratitude, the concern is always going forward in the future.

And I'm going to push that concern to the right out in the future.

People struggle even with the small things, right?

It's funny because I watched a video last night about a lady that went to YouTube and started her journey of weight loss and whatever.

I think she was 400 pounds or something and she was trying to get down.

And in the video, some people will know who I'm referring to.

Over the space of a year or two years, she actually just gains weight.

She gets to, I think, 500 pounds or something.

And as I was watching it, you're watching someone who's saying, I want to change my life.

But then it's coming on every day and saying, I've just gained three pounds.

And there's almost this visible dissonance that you're observing between this person saying they want to change their life.

But clearly the actions that they're then taking are different to that.

And many people can relate to that feeling of, I want to be this person.

For anyone that doesn't know, we're recording this in December.

So New Year's resolutions are around the corner.

Everyone's going to say to themselves who they want to become.

I think, what, 7%, 8%, 9% of New Year's resolutions will stick?

Or is there any other trick to discipline that you can offer?

It's starting small and realizing that all of our lives are about habits, not goals.

But what are the habits that make my goal a byproduct?

Everything is about byproducts in your whole life, whether you know it or not.

So instead of setting goals, set the byproduct.

What are the byproducts I want to have for this year?

And then what are the habits that make that up?

So what the big mistake most people make is they see somebody like you.

I know you don't drink alcohol because I brought you a flask and gave it to your team.

So somebody who doesn't live a very disciplined life would look at you and say, God, I want to be like Steven.

But they don't understand that you going to the gym isn't discipline.

So you're not, like, forcing yourself to go do something.

You're doing something that's a habit for you.

You only need, like, a teaspoon of it at the very beginning to get this habit started.

So start micro habits first and then bigger habits.

So the discipline is not something that you should be seeing if you're seeing someone eat healthy and go to the gym, do all the stuff you want to do.

And that person, you're not seeing a discipline at work right there.

The discipline was just at the beginning.

And I think if more people knew that, that you're just exercising a little discipline at the very beginning and then it's just, that's just what you do.

It's like somebody who sees someone brushing their teeth every day.

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