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  • Anyone who lives alone and manifests no longing to be in a relationship, is in our times, almost automatically, more or less secretly, viewed as both pitiable and deeply troubled.

    獨居又表明不想談戀愛的人,在這個時代,幾乎或多或少秘密地被視為可悲、有問題。

  • It's simply not thought possible to be at once, alone and normal.

    單身被視為是不正常的。

  • This sets us up for collective catastrophe because it means that a huge number of peoplewho have no innate wish to live with anyone else,

    這個想法會導致災難型的群體力量,因為這代表許多不想和他人一起生活,且打從心底就不適合過群居生活的人,

  • and are at heart deeply ill-suited to doing soare every year press-ganged and shamed into conjugal life with disastrous results for all involved.

    他們因為怕丟臉而被迫接受和他人一起生活,對他們自己以及身邊那個人都沒有好處。

  • Only once singlehood has completely equaled prestige with its alternative, can we ensure that people will be free in their choices and hence join couples for the right reasons;

    唯有讓單身與非單身者都受到相同的尊重,才能確保每個人都能自由地選擇,並為了對的理由談戀愛,

  • because they love another person, rather than because they are terrified of remaining single.

    因為他們是真正愛一個人,而非因為害怕單身才這麼做。

  • Here, then, are a few of the many good reasons to spend your life alone:

    以下是單身的好處:

  • 1. Because romantic love is a dangerous illusion.

    第一,因為浪漫的愛情是個危險的假象。

  • We should recognize that romantic love,

    我們要知道浪漫的愛,

  • the idea of being deeply enamored of one special partner over a whole lifetime, is a very new, ambitious and really pretty odd concept, at best 250 years old.

    一輩子只對單一人傾心,是個很新、頂多只有 250 年歷史、大膽且古怪的觀念。

  • From close-up, over long periods of time, almost everyone is condemned to be pretty dispiriting and difficult.

    仔細想想,長時間來看,幾乎每個人都是難以相處的。

  • A good romantic marriage is evidently theoretically possible,

    一段浪漫的完美婚姻理論上是有可能達成的,

  • but it's also extremely unlikely in practice, which should make any failure feel a good deal less shameful.

    但卻幾乎不可能實現,不過這讓失敗的婚姻看起來不那麼丟臉了。

  • 2. No one thinks their partner is terrific - After a while.

    第二,相處一陣子後,就沒有情人眼裡出西施這回事了。

  • Those among us who choose to stay single shouldn't be thought un-romantic.

    那些選擇單身的人不該被認為不浪漫。

  • Indeed, we may be among the very most romantic of all, because it is in the end the fervent romantics who should be especially careful of ending up in mediocre relationships:

    實際上擁有狂熱浪漫情懷的人,最終最有可能會陷於一段普通的感情關係,

  • relationships best suit the kind of people who don't actually expect too much from them.

    戀愛還是最適合那些對關係沒有太多期待的人。

  • 3. We aren't sane enough to be in relationships.

    第三,我們還不夠理智去談戀愛。

  • Though it's a sign of some maturity to know how to love and live alongside someone,

    即便了解如何愛人以及和另一伴生活是種成熟的展現,

  • it is actually a sign of even greater maturity to recognize that this is something one isn't, in the end, gonna be psychologically capable of, as a good portion of us simply are not.

    其實需要更成熟心態的是認知到,到最後其實我們心裡沒有辦法與另一半一起和睦生活,因為大多數人其實真的做不到。

  • Retiring oneself voluntarily, in order to save others (and oneself) from the consequences of one's own inner emotional turmoil is the true sign of a great and kind soul.

    自行放下一段關係,為了救另一半 (也救自己),避免對方陷入紊亂的情緒深淵,才是真正的偉大與良善。

  • 4. Being alone means not inflicting yourself on others.

    第四,單身代表不要讓別人遭受痛苦。

  • It spares you from constant reminders of how difficult and strange you are.

    你就不需要一直被別人嫌有多奇怪、多難相處。

  • No one is there to hold a mirror up, record your antics and constantly make you accountable for them.

    沒有人會拿著鏡子對著你,記錄你怪異的行為,並要你對每個怪異的舉動負責。

  • If you're lucky, you will be able to tolerate and even like yourself if you are on your own.

    假如幸運,單身的你能自己忍受自己,並喜歡自己。

  • 5. Relationships spoil love.

    第五,關係是愛情的墳墓。

  • It may be better to feel alone and be denied sex outside of a relationship than inside one.

    如果不是情侶關係,感到孤單或被拒絕上床就不會那麼痛心。

  • One thing the single are never denied, is hope.

    有一項東西單身者永遠不會失去就是希望。

  • All this isn't to say that being alone is without problems.

    並不是說單身就沒有問題。

  • There are of course drawbacks to both states, being single and being in a couple.

    當然兩邊都有壞處:單身或交往中。

  • Loneliness in the one; suffocation, anger, and frustration in the other.

    一個面臨寂寞;另一個令人感到窒息、憤怒及沮喪。

  • The truth is, we're simply not terribly good at being happy whatever our relationship status, which is ultimately an argument for neither rushing too fast into a couple nor rushing too fast out of one.

    事實上,不管處於怎樣的關係,無論是太快進入或離開一段關係,我們都不會開心。

Anyone who lives alone and manifests no longing to be in a relationship, is in our times, almost automatically, more or less secretly, viewed as both pitiable and deeply troubled.

獨居又表明不想談戀愛的人,在這個時代,幾乎或多或少秘密地被視為可悲、有問題。

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