Name: How To Be Popular Without Trying
Uploaded: 2018-01-02T07:27:37.000Z
Duration: 14 min 11 s
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If you've ever wanted to know what personality type leads to being 
beloved by men and women alike, you're going to like this video.

I started researching for this video intending to make something around Thor

but I very quickly realized that the real person worth studying is Chris Hemsworth.

He's one of the greatest guys I've ever met.

...but isn't like the dynamic between you two when you're on set.

It's magical. It's really, uh... it's sweet and it's very nurturing.

Now sweet and nurturing aren't normally words that men used to describe other men

but there are four things about Chris that seem 
to truly make people love being around him.

Even castmates that started out not wanting to like him end up raving about him.

I just needed something to be wrong with him.

And also for the four of you, it must be very annoying that you got to think, 
"Oh, you're very funny and here's this hunk. He's annoyingly funny—"

And the hyper for his latest movie Thor Ragnarok is off the charts

because we finally found a director that's willing to let Chris and Thor 
bleed their personalities together just like Robert Downey Jr. and Iron Man.

We know each other. He's a friend from work. Oh, come on.

Host: He's a more you in Thor this time around.
Chris: I think so, yeah. That was the goal.

And it literally transformed Thor from the worst-ranked 
Marvel movie on Rotten Tomatoes to the highest.

By the way, I saw the movie last night. This might be the best Marvel movie of all.

Now it's worth saying  part of his appeal is absolutely that he's great-looking —

there's no doubt — about it but everything we talked about 
today will apply to you no matter what you look like

So let's take a look at Chris's personality and what makes him so special.

The fact that Thor Ragnarok is being called the funniest Marvel movie yet

is a testament to this because the movie was mostly improvised.

We've covered humor a lot in previous videos so this video will mostly center around

other traits that are more unique to Chris Hemsworth but it's worth noting

because it's definitely a big part of why people like him so much.

Do you need Chris to lean back a little bit?

Here Chris uses a great and easy-to-use principle called Do the Opposite.

You don't want to use an abuse this but it's an 
easy fun way to be playful and make people laugh.

If you want to deep dive into this type of playful self-amusing humor,

I will put a link to a breakdown we did on Chris Pratt at the end of this video.

Now that said, there's one common theme in Chris's 
jokes that is definitely worth spending a minute on.

He almost always chooses to put himself on the same team as other 
people and he makes jokes that elevate the people around him.

I lead his fanbase. I'm finally a member of that one too.

Or how he playfully assures Chris Evans that he's got his back and then later on,

how he answers when asked the one thing that's a must-have at a party.

Evans: "Well, this is gonna sound strange but..." 
Hemsworth: "Say it. Say it..."

Hemsworth: God, I'm with you. I'm right here with you.
Evans: "Say it. Say it..." [Laughs]

It's Chris Evans — a must-have in a party, let me tell you.

This may seem like a small thing but he doesn't time and time again.

And there are real benefits to defaulting to that type of humor.

two, it makes your friends feel great and really like being around you;

and three, you lift yourself up as well and you do it without bragging

because if your friends are awesome, it stands to 
reason that you must be awesome as well.

I don't want to give anything away but you'll see this in Thor Ragnarok 2.

Now, one caveat here — this has to be done right 
so that you don't look like a suck-up.

We'll go through how to walk that fine line at the end of this video.

First, I want to point out two quick things about making jokes that elevate people.

It's important to keep these short. I have a friend —  a really, really nice

well-intentioned guy — who tries his best to do this for me whenever we go out.

But he drags it on for so long that even though it starts by getting 
a laugh three minutes in, it just feels try-hard and awkward.

Chris Hemsworth avoids this completely by throwing in a funny 
elevating joke and then moving on without dwelling on it at all.

And the last point on this — it's worth noting that he's not like this 100% of the time.

He definitely teases people but they receive it well 
because he's been complimentary in the past

For example, watch Chris Evans lose his mind in this next clip.

...those slide of Thor that's so great is you bring these slightly different nuances

to Thor whether he's on Asgard or on earth or whatever you'd like.

You bring new aspects whereas with Captain America, it's like—

He doesn't have nuance. [Everyone laughs]

And then he does it again as soon as they've gathered themselves.

And then we always see Captain America evolving into his leadership role

but as we see you evolving, like, more and more as—

Hemsworth: [High-pitched "Yeah"]
Evans: [Bursts out in laughter]

And what Chris does amazingly well is balance this playful jokester persona

with another side of himself that is very genuine.

I never was torturous at all so I'm incredibly proud of this.

This creates depth in him and is a very powerful thing that you can do too.

There are certain emotions we all share — pride after working hard, fear of not

being good enough, envy of the success or achievements of others, and so on.

If you can share them honestly without fear of judgment, it's really powerful.

The second thing Chris Hemsworth is incredible at is touch.

Touch is something we get asked about often — how, where, when — 
how do I make sure I'm not being weird or making anyone uncomfortable?

Touch is incredibly important for human interaction 
and I don't just mean romantic relationships.

Studies have shown it increases trust and liking amongst friends and co-workers

and can even lower blood pressure, heart rate, and the stress hormone cortisol.

That said, if done wrong, touch can create awkwardness and make people uncomfortable around you.

I didn't know this before making this video but Chris Hemsworth is easily

one of the touchiest people I have ever seen and there are a ton

of great little details about touch to learn from watching Chris.

So there it is. There is your answer to who is funny in the room.

Interviewer: Can I ask about that? What's that about?
Chris: Well, I didn't see the monitor over there, right?

And I know now we're trying to share the punch off but what it looks like is 
that me and you are... really into each other and we're on the fence here.

Now I know that some people are very uncomfortable both touching others

and being touched and I'm not saying you have to do this to be likable

or charismatic but I am saying that it helps a lot.

That said, there are three principles that will 
make sure that your touch is well-received.

First, be a universal toucher. Touch everyone.

Obviously, not equally; certain relationships to the person will impact