Name: 【TED】Tracee Ellis Ross: A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom (A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom | Tracee Ellis Ross)
Uploaded: 2018-05-16T15:52:44.000Z
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And a couple of days before Christmas, she was at the post office.

It was really crowded, as it is around the holidays,

And out of nowhere, someone moved her out of the way --

just physically put their hands on her and moved her out of the way.

He apparently needed something that she was blocking,

Maybe he had said something to her, maybe he didn't, she didn't hear it ...

Either way, she was focused, she was filling out the form.

And the next thing you know, there were hands on her,

She said that she was shocked at first --

And then a fury rose up in her that she could not explain:

So later, I was left pondering this fury,

and looking for an explanation as to why, even in her telling of it,

and why this was a word and a feeling that I was hearing a lot about lately.

I feel like this is the point in the room

where all the men are getting a little bit uncomfortable.

This fury is something that I have been chomping on

by lifetimes of men helping themselves to women's bodies

There's a culture of men helping themselves to women,

where a woman's body is like a saltshaker:

"Get out of the way so I can get to the fries" --

I imagine that some of you are wondering what the connection is

two things that seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum.

The innocuous makes space for the horrific.

And women have to live with the effects of both

can you imagine you're just on your phone,

and someone walks up to you and just takes it out of your hand?

And they're like, "OK dude, I don't know why you're getting so upset,

I'm going to give it back to you as soon as I'm done.

And then imagine if someone takes that cell phone out of your hands --

"Yeah, well, I mean, you got a fancy case,"

or "You shouldn't have taken it out of your pocket,"

But somehow, no one ever talks about the person who took the cell phone.

Men are so used to helping themselves, that it's like ...

And not because men are fundamentally less moral,

but because this is a very big blind spot for most men.

When someone helps themselves to a woman,

it not only triggers discomfort and distress,

but the unspoken experiences of our mothers' lives,

That's lifetimes of women dealing with men

who assume they know better for us than we know for ourselves,

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【TED】Tracee Ellis Ross: A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom (A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom | Tracee Ellis Ross)

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