Name: Mel Robbins on Why Motivation Is Garbage | Impact Theory
Uploaded: 2017-10-04T05:05:31.000Z
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You are here because like me you believe that
human potential is nearly limitless but you

know that having potential is not the same
as actually doing something with it.

Our goal with this show and company is to
introduce you to the people and ideas that

are going to help you actually execute on
your dreams.

All right, today’s guest is one of the most
popular on air commentators and opinion writers

for CNN and her unique brand of raw and relatable
advice has made her one of the most sought

Watching her you get the feeling that this
mother of three is just getting started.

Her well researched and really powerful insights
into what it means to be a human come wrapped

in both science and lovely mid-western charm,
allowing her to cut through the formality

of typical business jargon and grab her audiences
by the emotions.

She has made a name for herself by being;
blunt, unapologetic and yet totally vulnerable.

She says what everybody is already thinking
but is just a little too scared to say and

It is not hard to understand why her Ted Talk
titled; how to stop screwing yourself over

is one of the most watched Ted Talks of all
time.

It’s also easy to see why she is an award
winning talk radio host who is trusted by

some of the biggest brands on the planet to
help motivate and advice their teams.

She has appeared on everything from Good Morning
America and The Today Show to Dr. Phil and

Somehow she has also made time to found an
inspirational news site called inspire52.com

and found and sell a retail and internet tech
company.

Please help me in welcoming the former criminal
defense attorney who has been called an explosion

The bestselling author with a brand new book
titled; The 5 Second Rule.

The master of motivation herself; Mel Robbins.

It’s really good to have you on the show.

Mel: You called me the master of motivation
and I think motivation is complete garbage

Tom: That is a perfect place to start so I
totally agree with you but why do you say

Now I said that in the spirit of I know what
you are trying to do so it is meant with absolute

reverence, but why do you say that it’s
garbage?

Mel: Well and we’ll talk a lot about this
but I think it’s garbage because at some

point we all bought into this lie that you’ve
got to feel ready in order to change.

We bought into this complete falsehood that
at some point you are going to have the courage,

at some point you are going to have the confidence
and it’s total bullshit frankly.

Tom: Okay, it’s complete garbage so there
are so many people in the world and you may

be watching this right now and you have these
incredible ideas and what you think is missing

Because the way that our minds are wired and
the fact about human beings is that we are

not designed to do things that are uncomfortable
or scary or difficult.

Our brains are designed to protect us from
those things, because our brains are trying

In order to change, in order to build a business,
in order to be the best parent, the best spouse

to do all those things that you know you want
to do with your life, with your work, with

your dreams you are going to have to do things
that are; difficult, uncertain or scary.

Which sets up this problem for all of us,
you are never going to feel like it.

Motivation is garbage, you only feel motivated
to do the things that are easy right?

Mel: I know exactly why that is because I’ve
studied this so much, because for me one of

the hardest things to figure out was why is
it so hard to do the little things that would

What I’ve come to realize and what we’ll
talk a lot about today is that the way that

our minds are designed is our minds are designed
to stop you at all cost from doing anything

The way that this all happens is it all starts
with something super subtle that none of us

ever catch and that is with this habit that
all of us have that nobody is talking about.

We have an idea you are sitting in a meeting
you have this incredible idea and instead

of just saying it you stop and you hesitate.

Now what none of us realize is that when you
hesitate just that moment that micro moment,

that small hesitation it sends a stress signal
to your brain.

It wakes your brain up and your brain all
of a sudden goes, “Wait a minute why is

he hesitating he didn’t hesitate when he
put on his killer spiky sneakers, he didn’t

hesitate with the really cool track pants,
he didn’t hesitate with a NASA t-shirt now

he’s hesitating to talk something must be
up.”

Then your brain goes to work to protect you,
it has a million different ways to protect

you one of them is called the spotlight effect.

It’s a known phenomenon where your brain
magnifies risk, why?

To pull you away from something that it perceives
to be a problem.

You can truly trace every single problem or
complaint in your life to silence and hesitation,

What I do and what’s changed my life is
waking up and realizing that motivation is

garbage I’m never going to feel like doing
the things that are; tough or difficult or

uncertain or scary or new so I need to stop
waiting until I feel like it.

Number two, I am one decision away from; a
totally different marriage, a totally different

life, a totally different job, a totally different
income, a totally different relationship with

Not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in a marriage example but one decision on,

you could be having a conversation with your
spouse and you feel your emotions rise up

and within a tiny window those emotions can
take over and can impact how your marriage

You can learn how to take control of that
micro moment and make a decision to act in

a way that actually shifts your marriage.

Your life comes down to your decisions and
if you change your decisions you will change

Tom: That core concept comes through so powerfully
in your book which is phenomenal and I would

love it if you would take a second to tell
people the story of how, and by the way I

wore the NASA shirt because of the imagery.

Mel: Oh my God I’ve like falling my glasses
off that is, I did not even get that.

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