Name: WEDDING & MARRIAGE Vocabulary in English
Uploaded: 2018-02-06T16:28:07.000Z
Duration: 13 min 39 s
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Hi. James from EngVid. We are gathered here
today for this thing called "life". That's

a line from Prince. And I have to apologize
because one of you out there said that my

song was not music from Star Wars, but from
Mozart. My apologies. But I'm still using

it because it sounds, you know, like something
horrible is about to happen, and it is. I'm

going to teach you a lesson on weddings. And
depending on who you are, it's a good thing

or a bad thing. But anyway, here we go. One of
the things we're going to talk about -- we'll

talk about the rituals of weddings, and I'm
going to give you some vocabulary to go with

that. And just to start off the show -- I
don't know who this guy is, but anyway. He's

saying, "Will you marry me" to this beautiful
young girl. And she's saying, "Yes. I will.

Is that a diamond ring" -- another word for
"wedding band" -- "or Mr. E?" We'll find out.

Let's talk about weddings. Okay? Well, before
we go there, here's a little joke I'd like

to put to you. There are two things you will
be invited to. And both of them signal the

death of something or the death of life. Okay?
The first is a funeral. And I did a video

on that earlier. Go find it. That's where
my friend corrected me. And the second one

is a wedding. It is the death of your single
life. So what we're going to do is I'll do

the magic click, take a step out, and then we're
going to start the lesson. Are you ready?

"And dearly departed" -- sorry. Marriage. I
keep forgetting because that death thing

keeps coming to my mind. Anyway. So what we
want to look at is -- I told you I would give

you some vocabulary and explain a little bit,
give you a little history. It's not too much,

but it will help you to remember and understand why
we do what we do. Ready? Let's go to be board.

Mr. E is gone, but his presence will not be
missed. Okay in fact, I'll put a little E

here. We're going to talk about the engagement.
Okay? There you go, Mr. E. He's not looking

too happy about being in this particular situation.
We say the wedding is a particular day, and

it's true. In fact, there are special names
for weddings when you're getting married.

But before that we've -- I consider the wedding
starting with the engagement because that's

the first time you make a promise to join --
look at that. Engagement. You get a ring.

Surprise, surprise. You get that engagement
ring, and you say, "Will you marry me?" The

person says yes. You put it on. Boom. You're
fianc�s. You've started the first step

A little thing about wedding rings. I'm not
sure if you know about it, so I'll just take

a good look at it. Do you know what this symbolizes?
Well, boys and girls, in the old days, the

wedding band -- that's another word for "wedding
ring", the "wedding band" -- the wedding ring

told other men that this woman was taken. So
when the woman would put it on, other men

would go, "Oh, no she's off the market." In other
words, "You can't date her anymore because

somebody else has bought the woman." Glad
those days are over. Yeah? You just bought

a diamond ring, son. It's not over. So engagement.
It starts with a ring. And just before the

wedding, people -- you know, these are old,
kind of rituals or things we used to do. Young

people would get together. They wouldn't have
anything. They might have lived on a farm.

So they needed to get things to start their
new life together, and not everyone had a

lot of money. We're talking of the times where
people were kings and queens and princes.

So the poor didn't have a lot. So when you
would have a bridal shower or a stag night,

well, the bridal shower was to get gifts to
help the couple start their new life together.

I mean, really, this is about 150 years old,
but it's still long because you're young,

son. Not like me. Okay. So the bridal shower,
if you get invited to that, cha-ching! It's

the beginning of what I call the "wedding
money machine". You have to show up with a

gift for the bride because she's starting a
new life and you should pay for it. That's

right. Unlike the bachelor party -- old guys
call it "stag night" because stags have, you

know, the big buck. It's sort of like a horror
story -- deer. You know Bambi's mommy? Well,

Bambi's daddy would be a stag. He would be
big and strong. It would be your final night

to be a big, strong man because now, you're
about the get married. I love it. One ring

So the stag night was a man saying goodbye
to being a man and now to be a husband. And

the bridal shower was the time for the woman
to the bow, "Give me the goods. Give me the

good stuff." Okay? So
she'd be getting stuff.

Now, let's talk about the wedding itself.
Because this happens, and there's a period

of time in between. And it's called your "engagement
period" until we get to the wedding day. Now,

here's what's funny. Here's the funny thing.
On the wedding day, it's actually a whole

day, but the wedding really consists of a
few minutes, okay? Now, on the wedding day,

you're going to have a wedding party. I know
I made it sound like a funeral, but there

is actually a wedding party. It's not what
you're thinking. The wedding party are, sort

of -- today, we call it, like, your "posse"
or your "group" or -- what was that program

called? The guy had a -- well, whatever. You've
got your tribe with you. The woman had what's

called the "bridesmaids", and the men had what's
called the "groomsmen". Now, the bridesmaids

are made up of her good friends or women that
are important in her life. And the groomsmen

are made up for the man of all the important
men in his life. Okay? So this could be his

extra brothers. And this could be
her sisters and her best friends.

Now, of the people you like the best -- you
will love this part -- you have your maid

of honor. It could be your mother or sister,
but really a sister or your best, best friend.

And the best man would probably be your favorite
brother or your best friend. These are the

people that head these groups, like, the leaders
of these particular groups. And then, you

have the bride and the groom. The groom -- some
of you don't know this word because it only

exists for one day in your life. It's when a
man is about to be married. On his wedding

day, he is a groom. While the bride is only
a bride on her wedding day. Okay? And this

only lasts for about a couple of hours because
you have to understand after they exchange

rings -- that's what this is for. Okay? When
they exchange the rings, they suddenly become

"husband and wife". So you have a few hours
in your life that you will be a bride or a

groom. "Bride" is for girl;
"groom" is for boy. Okay?

So this is the wedding party, not the party
you're thinking. Sorry. But when you're invited

to be on the wedding party, it's an honor
because they're saying you're special. That's

why I said it's like your sister or your best
friend or your brother or your best friend.

A woman has to wear a special dress on her
wedding day, and it's called the "wedding

gown", sometimes called the "wedding dress"
now. Why am I mentioning this? Guys just get

to wear a suit, so it's not a big deal. A suit
or a tuxedo. The wedding gown has a specific

thing or meaning. And many women search for
months to get the perfect dress. You see,

the wedding gown came back -- this is also
about 150 years old. Because it started after

-- because a long time ago, women couldn't
afford to buy one dress to wear for one day

and throw in the garbage or put away. This was
just crazy. But about 150 years ago, they

started getting special dresses only for the
wedding. And they call it the "wedding gown".

Now, the wedding gown was supposed to be in
white. And it used to come with a veil. A

"veil" is something to cover the face. And
it was for innocence and purity and secrecy

because she was a virgin. And she would be
veiled until revealed to her husband. Okay?

Now, in the Western world, white meant innocence
and purity. But if you go to the Middle East

or in Asia, it was in red and orange. Now,
you might think that that woman must have

had lots and lots of sex, but that's not why.
You see, for Asians -- so if you're wondering

why in your country -- you're like, "Oh, my
god, our women are so dirty." It's not. It's

meant for festivity, to be fun and have fun
and be exciting. So they're saying you're

entering a new phase of your life where -- a
phase means period -- where you're going to

be having children and family and it's great
and it's fun. So they have orange and red.