Can’t I talk like this?

我不能用這種聲音說話嗎？

And what if I actually just sucked on some helium?

如果我真的不小心吸到一些氦氣呢？

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

嘿！我是Marie Forleo，而你正在收看Marie TV，一個幫助你創造出你所喜愛的事業

and life you love.

和生活的地方

Today’s episode is all about how to create a meaningful life.

今天要談論的全都和「如何創造出有意義的人生有關」

Now, I know that is a big, big topic, but I think this is a very important discussion

我知道這是一個相當相當大的主題，但我想這是一個非常重要討論議題

to have, especially at this time of year, because typically in December and January

特別是在一年中的這個時間點，因為通常在十二月和一月

is when people start to pay extra close attention to how they’re living their life, if they’re

人們都會特別去開始思索：他們是如何去度過他們的人生–是否

happy with their life, and what kind of changes, if any, they would like to make in the year

有活出快樂的人生；還有，如果可能，他們想要在新的一年

ahead.

做出什麼樣的改變

Not to mention, any time of year when it comes to really serious things like depression and

更何況，一年中的任何時候，當遇到很嚴肅的事情，例如沮喪

addiction, what can often be a part of those issues is that we feel hopeless or helpless

和成癮，什麼樣的事情可能促成這些情緒，使我們感到絕望、無助

or like our lives have no meaning.

或是讓我們覺得自己的人生已無任何意義

That’s why personally I think this conversation needs to happen a lot more often, and hopefully

這就是為什麼我個人覺得，這個話題需要被多次討論，希望

what we talk about today can help you start the conversation both for yourself and for

我們今天所談論的，可以幫助你和你自己，以及和你所喜愛的人們

the people that you love.

開始討論這個議題

Now, the best framework that I’ve ever found comes from one of my favorite books of all

我所找到的最好的架構，來自於

times.

我最喜歡的一本書

It's Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning.

這本書是 Viktor Frankl所寫的Man’s Search for Meaning

This book right here.

就是我手上的這本書

So if you’re not familiar with this book, you need to get it.

如果你沒看過這本書，推薦你去看看

You need to read it ASAP.

你需要儘早的去讀它

It’s a memoir of Frankl’s life and the spiritual lessons that he learned in order

這是Frankl一生的回憶錄，還有他為了

to survive Nazi concentration camps during World War II.

在第二次世界大戰中的納粹集中營生存，所學到的精神

This book is heartbreaking, it is inspiring, it is riveting, and in my opinion, it is a

這本書令人心碎的同時，又鼓舞了人心，是非常精采的一本書。我覺得

must read.

這是必讀的一本書

Now, one insight that I want to share right off the bat.

我想要馬上分享的見解是

According to Frankl, he believed that one component of wellbeing is based on a certain

Frankl表示，他相信幸福的其中一個元件，是立基於一定程度的緊繃感

degree of tension between what one has already accomplished and what one has yet to achieve.

在你已經實現的事，和你尚未完成的事之間

So in other words, who you are today and who you hope to become tomorrow.

換句話說，就是你現在是什麼樣的人，以及你希望自己未來成為什麼樣的人

So if you’re worried or ever have those thoughts that somehow you’re a failure because

所以，如果你感到憂心，或是曾經有自己是個失敗的想法，而這些都只是因為

you haven’t achieved all of your dreams quite yet, listen to me when I say this: you

自己尚未完成所有的夢想的話。那麼，聽我說：

are not a failure.

你並不是一個失敗者

That tension is a really good thing, so embrace that drive that you have, embrace your ambition,

那種緊繃感是一件好事，所以，去接受、控制你所擁有的；去接受你的野心和

and the gap between where you are and who you are today and where you want to go and

你現在所處的位置、你現在是什麼樣的人，以及你在明年、

who you want to become over the next year and ten years and so on.

未來十年後所想要成為的人的差距

So when it comes to making meaning in our lives, Frankl shares 3 simple avenues.

當提到要讓我們的人生有意義時，Frankl提出了3個簡單的方法

The first avenue is creating work or doing a deed.

第一個方式是：創造成果或是做出行動

In other words, having a project that you’re working on that requires your skills and abilities.

換句話說，就是擁有需要你的技能和能力的計畫案

You know, one of the most powerful stories in the book for me was when Frankl arrived

你知道嗎，這本書裡對我而言最有影響力的故事是：當Frankl抵達

at Auschwitz and he had the manuscript for a book that he was working on, he had it in

奧斯比次，而他的大衣口袋中有著他還正在撰寫的

his coat pocket.

新書草稿

And when he arrived, they confiscated it from him, just like everything else.

而當他抵達時，就如同其他物品一般，他們將他的草稿沒收

And he was heartbroken, but what he did throughout his time there is he started looking for these

當時的他心碎了，但他當時所做的事情是：他開始尋找

little scraps of paper and he was collecting them so he could start recreating his manuscript.

小紙片，並且將它們收集起來，如此一來，他就可以繼續重寫他的草稿了

And that really helped keep him focused.

他聚精會神的在做這件事

And there was this other thing that he shared that I really related to.

而他所分享的這些事和我非常有關

You know, while I have a stepson and I have a fur baby, I don't have any biological children.

你知道嗎，當我有一個養子和一隻毛小孩時，我並沒有任何親生的小孩

And he was talking about this book being his mental child and having the ability to focus

而他所說的就是：這本書成為了他心中的小孩，他必須專心照顧這位小孩

on that mental child and how important it was for him to nurture it and bring it to

他如何養育它、給予它新生命、

life and put that manuscript back together was really a key in helping him survive that

並將草稿們整理在一起，對他而言是非常重要的，這是幫助他

experience.

存活的關鍵

The second avenue, by experiencing something or someone.

第二個方法是：去體驗某事或某人帶給你的感受

So in other words, experiencing beauty or truth or goodness or love, whether that’s

換句話說，去感受美麗、真實、上帝或是愛，不管

through nature or by loving someone else.

是透過大自然或是自己所喜愛的人

You know, Frankl shares these moments throughout the book.

你知道嗎，Frankl透過這本書分享了這些片刻

For example, when he was being transferred from Auschwitz to a Bavarian camp by train,

例如，當他被從奧斯比次轉火車到巴伐利亞的營區時

how he and everyone was in this crowded train and they were crowding around this tiny barred

他和每個在這部壅擠的列車裡的人，都擠在木柵的小窗子邊

window just to catch a glimpse of the mountainside and the beautiful sunset.

就只是為了想一睹山景和美麗的夕陽

And in Frankl’s own words, he said, “We were carried away by nature’s beauty, which

Frankl說：我們被大自然的美景所吸引，

we had missed for so long.”

而這個，正是已被我們遺忘多時了

Or the other thing that really stood out to me in the book was how much Viktor connected

其他吸引我的，還有Viktor

with his wife through his thoughts and his imagination and how much his love for her

用他的思想和想像來和他妻子聯繫，以及他對於她的愛是如此的深

kept him fueled and really kept him going.

以至於可以成為他繼續走下去的動力

And there was one passage that I want to read which sums it up.

接下來的這一段文字，是我想朗讀出來，並用來總結這一段

He wrote: “Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and

他寫道「我又體悟到—人間一切詩作

human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.

、人類的思想和信仰所接露的一大奧秘：人類的救贖就是經由愛與被愛

I understood how a man who has nothing left in this word still may know bliss, be it only

我更領會到：一個孑然一身．别無他物的人只要沉醉在想念心上人的思維中

for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved.”

仍可享受到天上的喜悅--即使只是倏忽的一瞬間。」

The third and final avenue is the attitude that we take towards unavoidable suffering.

第三也是最後一個方法是：我們面對無可抗拒的痛苦時，所抱持的態度

In other words, our human capacity to transform personal tragedy into triumph.

換句話說，就是我們人類將悲傷化為力量的能力

This is probably the biggest message that I took away from the book.

這或許是我從這本書中得到最大啟示的地方

You know, Viktor discovered through surviving what is arguably one of the most horrific

你知道嗎，Viktor從你可以想像的，可以說是他最驚悚的經驗中的其中一個發現

experiences you could ever imagine that he was able to find meaning and growth and a

他可以找出他身為一個人類的意義、成長

deeper sense of who he was as a human being as a result.

還有在深層意識中發掘他到底是誰

And there was one really incredible insight that he shared, which was this.

他分享的一個相當令人難以置信的觀點是

“In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”

「當人在苦難中發現意義的時候,痛苦在一定程度上就不再是痛苦。」

We hear stories about this every day, right?

我們每天都聽過關於這種的故事，對吧？

I mean, where people face unimaginable challenges that could break them, but somehow they wind

我的意思是，當人們面對可能打敗他們的挑戰的同時，他們也

up growing stronger and more resilient and even more fulfilled as a result.

將變得更強壯、更加愉快；甚至更加有成就感

So while there are many different schools of thought around meaning and fulfilment,

因此，即使在意義和成就上的思想有許多不同的學派

I found Viktor Frankl’s three part framework really speaks to my heart.

我發現Viktor的三部分架構深得我心

One of the reasons that I love it so much is because I think many of us can get lost

我那麼喜歡它的一個原因是，因為我覺得我們大多數的人，都會在

looking outside of ourselves for how to create a meaningful life and what Viktor Frankl so

「如何創造出有意義的人生」上迷失方向，而Viktor Frankl

beautifully teaches us is that each of those three avenues is completely within our control.

所教導我們的是，這三個方法都是完全可以由我們自行掌控的

So whether you’re watching this over the holidays or any time of year and you're feeling

因此，不管你是在假日或是任何時候看到這個，而你正感到

a little down or you’re feeling a little empty, I want you to remember this:

心情低落或是有些空虛感，我希望你記住這個：

“Rather than searching for life’s meaning, remember that you always have the power to

「比起找尋生命的意義，更重要的是，你要記得

create it.”

你永遠擁有創造意義的力量」

And before we wrap up, I want you to know something.

在我們結束之前，我想要你了解到

That you watching this show and being a part of everything that we do is truly meaningful

你看了這個節目，並成為了你所擁有的一部分，這對我來說是別具意義的

to me, so thank you for that.

非常感謝你

And now I would love to hear from you.

現在，我期待聽聽你們的意見

If you’d like to experience more meaning in your life, try looking through the lens

如果你想要體驗生命中更多的意義，可以試著

of Frankl’s three avenues.

從Frankl的三個方式看世界

And then in the comments below, tell me about each one.

並且，在下面的評論中，一個個的和我分享

Tell me a little bit about what you’re working on and someone you love.

告訴我一些，你正致力於什麼樣的事情和你所喜愛的人們

And if there’s some unavoidable suffering, what is the deeper meaning that you might

還有，如果有些不可抗拒的傷害，你從中找尋到的

be able to find in it?

意義是什麼？

As always, the best conversations happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so head

如同往常一樣，在一集結束後，在MarieForleo.com的網站裡都會出現熱烈的討論，所以

on other there and leave a comment now.

現在就請你在下方留下你的想法吧！

And once you're there, be sure to subscribe to our email list and become an MF insider.

既然來到這了，請記得訂閱我們的信箱並成為MF的內部會員

You’ll get instant access to a fantastic training I created.

你將會立即得到我所創造的令人驚豔的訓練的使用權

It’s called How to Get Anything You Want.

它叫做：如何得到你所想要的任何東西

And you’ll also get exclusive content and some special giveaways and updates from me

你也會得到從我這更新的獨享內容，和一些特別的免費贈品

that I just don't share anywhere else.

這是沒有分享到其他地方的喔

I’m wishing you and your loved ones a beautiful holiday season and I cannot wait to see you

希望你和你的愛人有美好的假日，我迫不及待的想要

back again in the new year.

在新的一年再看到你們了

Until then, stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that

到那時為止，繼續闖蕩你的事業，並持續朝著你的夢想邁進，因為這世界正需要

special gift that only you have.

你那獨一無二的天賦

Thank you again and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

非常感謝你的收看，我們下回在於MarieTV再會

Greg, you know I’m always happy to see you.

Greg，你知道我很開心見到你嗎

Always happy to see you, brother.

很開心見到你，兄弟

Now it’s not a smushed brownie.

這不是碎掉的核仁巧克力餅

Gentle.

紳士點

Like this.

像這樣

Like silent meditation like the stink bomb’s over there.

像是安靜的冥想、像是臭氣沖天的爆炸

I say we give it a go.

我們試試看

What’s the worst thing that could happen, right?

也不會糟到哪裡去，對吧？