Liking someone can be incredibly confusing and frustrating because it can either end in love or heartbreak.

喜歡上某人會非常困惑和沮喪，因為它可能以相愛或心碎告終。

But it's also one of the most fun and exciting things you could ever experience.

但這也是你可以體驗到最有趣和最興奮的事情之一。

So, while there is no definitive theory yet about how we develop crushes and what we go through when we do,

雖然目前還沒有確切理論解釋如何發展暗戀和有什麼經歷時該做的事。

here at Psych2go, we've done our best to come up with these six stages we believe everyone with a crush goes through.

在 Psych2go，我們已經盡力想出這六個階段，我們相信每個在暗戀的人都經歷過。

Stage one: Interest.

第一階段：興趣。

So, the story begins when you meet someone new for the first time and you feel intrigued by them.

故事始於你第一次遇到新朋友並且對他們產生興趣。

This stage can happen at any given moment.

這個階段在任何時候都會發生。

Sometimes it can be as quick as when you first lay your eyes on them.

有時它就像一見鐘情。

And other times, it can take a while before you feel a spark.

在其他時候，你可能需要一段時間才能感受到火花。

When you develop a crush on someone you've known for a long time, like a close friend, a lot of people tend to deny and debate with their feelings first, before they can accept them.

當你對認識很久的人產生好感時，像是知己，很多人往往會在接受前，先否認和思考他們的感受。

But the moment you do, you'll suddenly feel the pull of romantic attraction taking a hold of you.

但當你這麼做時，你會突然感覺到浪漫的吸引力抓住了你。

That there's something special about this person.

這個人有個特別的地方。

That's when you move onto stage two: Curiosity.

這時你會進入第二階段：好奇。

Did you look up your crush's Facebook profile, browse through all their posts and tweets, and view their Instagram stories?

你有查看過暗戀對象的 Facebook 個人頁面，瀏覽他們所有的貼文和推文，並查看他們的 Instagram 動態嗎？

Maybe you even added them on one of their handles, if you were feeling brave enough.

如果你夠勇敢，你甚至加他們其中一個帳號的好友。

You did all of this so that you could get a better idea about what kind of person they are, how much they have in common with you, and how compatible you'd be together.

你做的這一切是為了更了解他們是什麼樣的人，與你有多少共同點，以及你們在一起有多合適。

Once someone catches your eye, it's only natural to feel curious about them.

一旦有人引起你的注意，對他們感到好奇是很自然的。

You wanna get to know them better ⏤ all their likes and dislikes, their hobbies, their dreams, their favorite things.

你想更了解他們，他們所有的喜歡和厭惡、嗜好、夢想和最喜歡的東西。

Some people do this by simply going up to their crush and asking them about it.

有些人會直率地走向他們的暗戀對象，並詢問他們這件事。

But others feel too flustered and nervous to even strike up a casual conversation.

但有些人甚至會覺得因為太慌亂和緊張而無法開啟日常對話。

So, that's where social media enters the story, like a Knight in shining armor.

這就是社群媒體進入故事的地方，就像一個救星。

Stage three: Infatuation.

第三階段：迷戀。

Now that you know for sure you have a crush on this person, next comes infatuation.

既然你確定對這個人有好感，那接下來就是迷戀了。

And for many of us, this is the best part about having a crush.

對許多人來說，這是喜歡一個人最棒的部分。

Because when you're infatuated with someone, your whole world starts to change.

因為當你迷戀上一個人時，你的整個世界會開始改變。

Everything seems so much brighter, more vibrant, and more beautiful to you now that you've found someone who makes you giddy with excitement every time you think about them.

對現在的你來說，一切都變得更開朗、活躍跟美麗，因為你找到一個每次想起都會讓你激動到飄飄然的人。

There's this never-ending flurry of butterflies fluttering in your stomach.

蝴蝶在胃裡永無止境的飛舞著。

And you always feel like you're floating on cloud nine with each glance or each word of conversation you share with your crush.

每看一眼你的暗戀對象或跟他說的每一句話，都讓你高興到不得了。

They send you a text message and you feel like your whole day is made.

他們發訊息給你，你就會覺得一整天都很美好。

They make you laugh and the memory doesn't leave your mind for days.

他們讓你笑的美好回憶會在你腦袋停留好幾天。

Even the mere mention of their name is enough to make you blush and swoon.

就算只是提到他們的名字，也足以讓你臉紅和心醉神迷。

At this stage, everything seems perfect.

在這個階段，一切看似都很美好。

Your crush is everything you ever wanted and you just want this feeling to last forever.

你的暗戀對象就是你想要的一切，你希望這種感覺可以持續一輩子。

Then comes stage four: Sharing.

接著就是第四階段：分享。

You know you're really starting to get serious feelings about someone when you tell your friends about them.

你跟朋友談到喜歡的人時，你會發現你開始對他有興趣。

Of course, sometimes your friends can figure it out for themselves when you have a crash.

當然有時候你朋友在你喜歡上某人時，就會自己發現。

But what matters most isn't that your friends already know, it's that you wanted to tell them about it regardless.

但重點不是你的朋友知不知道，而是你無論如何都想告訴他們這件事。

You wanna talk to your friends about how your crush makes you feel and tell them all the things you like about them.

你想和朋友談談暗戀對象給你的感覺、你喜歡他的所有事情。

You want their advice about what to reply to your crush's text, or what to say next time you see them.

你想要他們的建議，告訴你如何回覆暗戀對象的訊息，或下次見到他們時該說些什麼。

And you ask them what they think your crush meant when they told you this or that.

你會問他們，當你的暗戀對象跟你說各式各樣的事時，代表什麼意思。

You want their support and their encouragement, but also their honest opinion.

你需要他們的支持和鼓勵，但也需要他們誠實的意見。

And it's usually because of your friends that you slowly start to realize the flaws your crushes have or where your relationship with them is going,

而且通常會因為你朋友，你才慢慢開始意識到你暗戀對象的缺點或你與他們的關係發展，

which can end with you either heading to stage five or straight to stage six.

最後你不是進入第五階段，就是直接進入第六階段。

More on that later.

等等再來談。

Stage five: Falling in love.

第五階段：墜入愛河。

To like and to love are two very different things.

喜歡和愛是兩種截然不同的東西。

But, sometimes, your crush turns into something more, and you find yourself falling in love with them.

但有時候你的迷戀感會變得更深，你發現自己愛上了他們。

At this stage, your feelings for them are no longer clouding your judgment about them.

在這個階段，你對他們的感覺不再使你對他們的看法產生混亂。

You've stopped putting them on a pedestal and thinking of them as perfect, and instead, get to know them well and grow closer to them in a way that allowed you to see them for who they really are.

你不會再崇拜他們、認為他們是完美的。取而代之，你會以一種可以看到他們真實個性的方式更了解、更貼近他們。

And if you're lucky enough that they feel the same way about you, too, then you're on your way to starting a romantic relationship with your crush.

如果你夠幸運，他們也會對你有同樣的感覺，那你就可以開始與你的暗戀對象建立親密關係。

Congratulations.

恭喜。

Stage six: Falling out of love.

第六階段：失戀。

On the other hand, however, you may find yourself falling out of love with your crush after having seriously thought everything out between the two of you.

然而在認真考慮你們兩人之間的一切後，你可能會發現自己不再喜歡你的暗戀對象。

Maybe you realize they aren't as great as you used to think, and it's made you lose interest in them.

也許你意識到他們並不像你以前想像的那麼好，而讓你對他們失去興趣。

Or perhaps you feel that there's very little chance of them ever liking you back or seeing you as more than just a friend.

或者是你覺得他們回覆你愛意的機率很小、只是把你當友達以上的朋友。

Whatever the reason may be, it's made you reconsider your feelings and snap out of your crush.

不管原因是什麼，這都會讓你重新考慮自己的感受，並擺脫你的暗戀對象。

It may take some time before you can accept it.

你可能需要花一些時間才能接受它。

And depending on how strongly you once felt about them, it can be a painfully devastating thing to go through.

而且取決於你對他們過去的感覺有多強烈，這可能是一個充滿痛苦又難受的過程。

But, once it's all over and you've finally moved on, you'll thank yourself for ending it, because deep down inside, you knew that this person wasn't right for you.

一旦這一切都結束，而你終於能接受現實，你就會感謝自己結束這段關係，因為在你內心深處就知道這個人不適合你。

And that it just wasn't meant to be.

而並不是本該如此。

Oh, well, maybe the next one to come along will be better.

也許下一個人會更好。

Do you relate to any of the things mentioned here?

你認同影片裡提到的這幾點嗎？

How does having a crash feel like for you?

喜歡一個人對你的感受是什麼？

Can you identify the stage you're in right now?

你能確定你現在的階段嗎？

Do let us know in the comments below.

在底下留言告訴我們。

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如果你覺得這個影片很有趣，按讚並分享給其他人。

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